In 1991 Amy Grant released a song titled ‘Hats’. In the song lyrics it talks about the different ‘hats’ women wear.
‘One day I’m a mother, next day I’m a lover, what am I supposed to do’
Even though this song is over 20 years old it could still be just as relevant today, as we juggle all the different ‘hats’ we as women wear. We are mums. wives, workers, aunties, grandma’s, nanna’s, students the list goes on. It can be very easy to lose sight of who you really are and what your identity really is. Throw in a good dose of ‘reality’ TV with unattainable expectations and we can be left thinking and wondering just what do we need to do to measure up to societies standards.
God’s been talking a lot to me lately about my worth and identity and just where I see myself and to whom I measure myself against. Is my worth and identity measured or seen in my ability to be a loving wife, or is it how well I do at being a mother. Is it my job, am I judged by society for being less now that I don’t nurse anymore and work as a School Officer, a job I love but very much different to the responsibilities I use to have on a busy post-op surgical ward. Do I get a mark against me for having a child on the Autism Spectrum? Some parts of society would like me to believe that it’s my fault…..it’s those vaccinations I carelessly gave him you know!
You know how it is, with the world at our feet by simply pushing a button it can be very easy to fall into the trap of measuring yourself against those not only physically around us but those many miles away that just happen to pop up on our Facebook news feeds. I think we as women really need to put down our phones and pick up our bibles and read how God sees us.
So lets look and see how God sees us.
“It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from inside you –the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. That beauty will never disappear and it is worth very much to God.”
— 1 Peter 3:3-4
So God isn’t worried wether I have the latest look, because God sees my beauty from within, he sees and is more interested in what my heart looks like.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26
Does God need me to have an all powerful job? No, I can speak wisdom and show kindness no matter what my occupation, this is what God is happy with.
There are many more verses that speak of how God sees us, and that he sees us very differently to how we see ourselves, he created us in his image so why would he think we aren’t worthy?
For me I’ve decided it’s time to do some serious Kingdom business. So in December I’ll be heading down to NSW to spend 4 days at the Captivating Australia Retreat. Along with many other women, I’m taking time to be with God, let him deal with the thoughts and ideas I insist on hanging onto. It’s going to be tough, I have no doubt about it. I’m a real home girl so just being away from my family will be tough. I have trouble keeping still long enough to hear God at times, 4 days of this will be a challenge. Apart from one other lady, I’ll be with women I don’t know, staying in cabins with women I don’t know. This will really be out of my comfort zone.
But I know this is what I need to do, I know I will come away stronger, more faithful, more happy, more confident and more peaceful in being reassured that God loves me and I’m his daughter and Princess. But for now I will count the days till my adventure begins!